Comments on: ADVICE: I’m Dating A Pro Athlete

By: EbonyLolita

EbonyLolita — Thu, 29 Oct 2009 03:03:26 +0000

I’m Sorry Ladies I agree with Maryann. If you want this man to get to know you he should know that you are emotionally available for Marriage, not for f’n around. If he’s not mature enough to understand this then he’s not someone that you would want for a Husband. Young Lady follow this advice, limit your dating info from your friends b/c all they’ll do is HATE when this are good and CELEBRATE when things are going bad.
Good luck Love,
EbonyLolita

By: Maryann

Maryann — Thu, 29 Oct 2009 00:07:24 +0000

I think it’s quite presumptuous for a man to assume on a first date that the woman means she wants to marry him, it’s immature. Most emotionally available people will welcome this conversation in an open hearted, general manner and context of “things I want out of life”. If a woman is dating without disclosing this, she is never going to know if a man likes her for who she really is. It’s called manipulation to hide things from people to sway their perception of you. Only in America, kids…lol

By: Zabeth

Zabeth — Wed, 28 Oct 2009 23:32:27 +0000

I know someone who also ascribes to the let him know you want to be married on the first date school of thought, and she’s married. Her argument is, if he runs away than good riddance! He obviously isn’t ready to make that kind of commitment or he isn’t interested in marriage. This way neither one of you wastes each other’s time or gets disappointed. There are also ways of asking this question without turning it into an interrogation of sorts. Some marriage minded men will bring up the subject before you do.

By: DaniBani

DaniBani — Wed, 28 Oct 2009 22:39:51 +0000

@Maryann Oh gosh. Just the thought of telling a man that on the first date makes me nervous…lol Like I’m never going to see him again. But I guess the right man will stay (hopefully) and won’t be deterred by that. I thought you were supposed to keep it light and breezy on the first date, no serious talk.

Personally I like texting cause I’m not a big phone talker and I’d rather talk in person. You’re right though, when a text is not returned in a timely manner, it does cause you to wonder what they’re doing.

By: Maryann

Maryann — Wed, 28 Oct 2009 22:02:24 +0000

@Dani we discussed the whole first date thing in the Inner Circle, Dr. Jeff Gardere suggested that and he is a man, but I have always been a follower of this. It’s all about tone. Sure, some men will run, but one will stay. That’s all you need.

Now women may differ on this, but I think texting has made men lazy. It’s also taken away the romance. I love to hear a man’s deep voice on the other end, not read typed words. There is also the chance for LOTS of miscommunication, and just wait till somebody does not text back, a whole lot more questions arise, too much complication, just give me the damn phone lol.

By: DaniBani

DaniBani — Wed, 28 Oct 2009 21:52:30 +0000

@Maryann- telling him she wants to get married on the first date?!!! That seems like it could possibly scare him off, no?

Also, why should she limit text messaging?

By: Jordan

Jordan — Wed, 28 Oct 2009 21:33:05 +0000

@Zabeth VERY I’d do it all over again!

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By: Zabeth

Zabeth — Wed, 28 Oct 2009 19:07:15 +0000

I wonder if the benefits outweigh the drama?

By: Jordan

Jordan — Wed, 28 Oct 2009 18:30:39 +0000

As someone whose done this before I cosign on this advice I did it the easy have
Sex and pray for the best I learned the less u seem involved the betta but don’t overplay your hand