Comments on: Weekend Rewind: ADVICE: Getting Him Back By The “Roots” http://www.alphanista.com/advice-getting-him-back-by-the-roots/ Dedicated To The Alpha Female Perspective.... Fri, 30 Jul 2010 13:25:15 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: smh http://www.alphanista.com/advice-getting-him-back-by-the-roots/comment-page-1/#comment-3309 smh Fri, 23 Oct 2009 22:56:40 +0000 http://www.alphanista.com/?p=3140#comment-3309 "he just doesn’t know it yet" That is a flag. He is not ready - now is not the time. He may be 'the one' - but not at this point in time. Yasmin is fearful and fear is not rational and inhibits clear thinking. Fear is making you desperate and that is scaring him off in addition to whatever issues he has that he does not at this time 'know' he is the one. It is better to give it time and take time to get to a place of peace and contentedness, centered and balance within yourself while giving him time to see the light. He might also see you as a calm compelling person that he wants to get to know better long term. This is not to say wait forever. Far from it. It is to say take time to get centered and balanced and be at peace within yourself. Then when you are in that place look at the situation and ask what next what works for you. At that point you can either decide if he is worth the wait or look at other options that have evolved during the time you took for yourself to heal the fear. You deserve to have someone who is ready and to be ready and start your life with a partner from a place of peace. Best wishes. “he just doesn’t know it yet”

That is a flag. He is not ready – now is not the time. He may be ‘the one’ – but not at this point in time. Yasmin is fearful and fear is not rational and inhibits clear thinking. Fear is making you desperate and that is scaring him off in addition to whatever issues he has that he does not at this time ‘know’ he is the one. It is better to give it time and take time to get to a place of peace and contentedness, centered and balance within yourself while giving him time to see the light. He might also see you as a calm compelling person that he wants to get to know better long term.

This is not to say wait forever. Far from it. It is to say take time to get centered and balanced and be at peace within yourself. Then when you are in that place look at the situation and ask what next what works for you.

At that point you can either decide if he is worth the wait or look at other options that have evolved during the time you took for yourself to heal the fear.

You deserve to have someone who is ready and to be ready and start your life with a partner from a place of peace.

Best wishes.

]]> By: EbonyLolita http://www.alphanista.com/advice-getting-him-back-by-the-roots/comment-page-1/#comment-3307 EbonyLolita Fri, 23 Oct 2009 21:47:08 +0000 http://www.alphanista.com/?p=3140#comment-3307 You can't be serious can you??? I laugh b/c you seek the solace of Santaria/Voodoo/Condumble/Roots out of desperation. You are not thinking w/ your right mind and if you are ANY type of Christian you already know that you are WRONG :( What you need to do is take less focus on trying to KEEP this man and wonder what's wrong w/you that you would resort to such measures. Who you are should be enough for your "soulmate." To resort to charms,amulets,bathes and GOD FORBID sacrifices is the Devil whispering sweet nothings in your ear. Honey, Get your Self Esteem up and realize that just b/c he's not the "soulmate" for you doesn't mean that you don't have a "soulmate" out there. You might have passed him by wasting time w/this Guy. I pray you find the strength to steer clear of the "Roots" Good luck Love, EbonyLolita ;) You can’t be serious can you??? I laugh b/c you seek the solace of Santaria/Voodoo/Condumble/Roots out of desperation. You are not thinking w/ your right mind and if you are ANY type of Christian you already know that you are WRONG :( What you need to do is take less focus on trying to KEEP this man and wonder what’s wrong w/you that you would resort to such measures. Who you are should be enough for your “soulmate.” To resort to charms,amulets,bathes and GOD FORBID sacrifices is the Devil whispering sweet nothings in your ear. Honey, Get your Self Esteem up and realize that just b/c he’s not the “soulmate” for you doesn’t mean that you don’t have a “soulmate” out there. You might have passed him by wasting time w/this Guy. I pray you find the strength to steer clear of the “Roots” Good luck

Love, EbonyLolita ;)

]]> By: Athena Nike http://www.alphanista.com/advice-getting-him-back-by-the-roots/comment-page-1/#comment-2558 Athena Nike Fri, 29 May 2009 22:33:31 +0000 http://www.alphanista.com/?p=3140#comment-2558 I never noticed til my mom pointed it out how my grandma (her ma-in-law) from the deep south didn't eat other women's cooking, especially if it was just brought to her just because. My ma recounts how a cake was brought over from some occassion and my mother was slicing into it, and grandma asked "you're going to eat that?" I thought maybe she knew the woman house wasn't clean or picked her nose, but my mother says grandma inferred she didn't trust them and wouldn't let her have any cake. Over the years, i could recall my grandmother asking people to stop and get her some KFC when we were on our way to a picnic or other social functions, and it seemed like she would not eat my mothers cooking either when we were younger and she visited, I can recall her "not being hungry" and toting her own 6 pack of pepsi to drink. She has since moved on from that, maybe thinking all her enemies are dead or she just old enough now it don't matter. I do believe people trying to "fix" things, that is why you have to treat everybody right and stay prayed up. I agree with talentedren & deardj. I never noticed til my mom pointed it out how my grandma (her ma-in-law) from the deep south didn’t eat other women’s cooking, especially if it was just brought to her just because. My ma recounts how a cake was brought over from some occassion and my mother was slicing into it, and grandma asked “you’re going to eat that?” I thought maybe she knew the woman house wasn’t clean or picked her nose, but my mother says grandma inferred she didn’t trust them and wouldn’t let her have any cake. Over the years, i could recall my grandmother asking people to stop and get her some KFC when we were on our way to a picnic or other social functions, and it seemed like she would not eat my mothers cooking either when we were younger and she visited, I can recall her “not being hungry” and toting her own 6 pack of pepsi to drink. She has since moved on from that, maybe thinking all her enemies are dead or she just old enough now it don’t matter.
I do believe people trying to “fix” things, that is why you have to treat everybody right and stay prayed up. I agree with talentedren & deardj.

]]> By: deardj http://www.alphanista.com/advice-getting-him-back-by-the-roots/comment-page-1/#comment-2526 deardj Tue, 26 May 2009 01:58:50 +0000 http://www.alphanista.com/?p=3140#comment-2526 To a God-believing woman "a man who findeth a wife findeth a good thing". Let him find you, if he wants you. If he does not want you; definitely don't go wanting him. You're asking for trouble. Furthermore, practicing witchcraft and voodoo is not the way to "get" anything. Just remember "the seeds we sow comes back to us". If it is that easy to get a man through incantation can another woman not gain that same man through the same means? Why not just let go, and let God. i.e. Let God do the doing, getting, and giving. He makes no mistakes. When He does it, it is done right. To a God-believing woman “a man who findeth a wife findeth a good thing”. Let him find you, if he wants you. If he does not want you; definitely don’t go wanting him. You’re asking for trouble. Furthermore, practicing witchcraft and voodoo is not the way to “get” anything. Just remember “the seeds we sow comes back to us”. If it is that easy to get a man through incantation can another woman not gain that same man through the same means? Why not just let go, and let God. i.e. Let God do the doing, getting, and giving. He makes no mistakes. When He does it, it is done right.

]]> By: Maryann http://www.alphanista.com/advice-getting-him-back-by-the-roots/comment-page-1/#comment-2525 Maryann Mon, 25 May 2009 22:13:41 +0000 http://www.alphanista.com/?p=3140#comment-2525 @Talent love what your teacher said: It doesn\’t have to be hard. Your desires should come with immediacy and ease. @Talent love what your teacher said: It doesn\’t have to be hard. Your desires should come with immediacy and ease.

]]> By: Talentedren http://www.alphanista.com/advice-getting-him-back-by-the-roots/comment-page-1/#comment-2524 Talentedren Mon, 25 May 2009 22:10:16 +0000 http://www.alphanista.com/?p=3140#comment-2524 First of all, perfect love casts out all fear. So if you are afraid of losing him, then it isn\'t really love. Fear and love cannot exist in the same space. I agree with many of the other posters, you may get him, but you also may get more than you bargained for like a loveless, long-term relationship or the biggest disaster of your life because your intentions weren\'t right. If he is your soulmate he knows it. You don\'t have to tell him. Don\'t force something. Things are much more enjoyable when they flow naturally. Instead of working a \"root\" to get him, ask for perfect alignment and be amazed by the providential synchronicities you see in your life each day. As one of my teachers always says. It doesn\'t have to be hard. Your desires should come with immediacy and ease. First of all, perfect love casts out all fear. So if you are afraid of losing him, then it isn\’t really love. Fear and love cannot exist in the same space.

I agree with many of the other posters, you may get him, but you also may get more than you bargained for like a loveless, long-term relationship or the biggest disaster of your life because your intentions weren\’t right.

If he is your soulmate he knows it. You don\’t have to tell him.

Don\’t force something. Things are much more enjoyable when they flow naturally. Instead of working a \”root\” to get him, ask for perfect alignment and be amazed by the providential synchronicities you see in your life each day.

As one of my teachers always says. It doesn\’t have to be hard. Your desires should come with immediacy and ease.

]]> By: Estilo http://www.alphanista.com/advice-getting-him-back-by-the-roots/comment-page-1/#comment-2330 Estilo Fri, 01 May 2009 03:09:04 +0000 http://www.alphanista.com/?p=3140#comment-2330 One more thing lolol....if you want to use some kind of physical manifestation or something tangible to express yourself spiritually, then let it focus on YOU, and your strength, enlightenment and opening your mind and heart....these will surely attract the right person more so than forcing them thru other means. It all starts with you. One more thing lolol….if you want to use some kind of physical manifestation or something tangible to express yourself spiritually, then let it focus on YOU, and your strength, enlightenment and opening your mind and heart….these will surely attract the right person more so than forcing them thru other means. It all starts with you.

]]> By: Estilo http://www.alphanista.com/advice-getting-him-back-by-the-roots/comment-page-1/#comment-2329 Estilo Fri, 01 May 2009 03:05:52 +0000 http://www.alphanista.com/?p=3140#comment-2329 i have to agree with Angela...a true soulmate does not have to be coerced in any way. and i think if she honestly believed he was meant for her, she wouldn't be insecure enough to be contemplating this. my answer is NO DON"T DO IT!! first of all, "roots," "santeria," "obeah" or whatever they call it in your neck of the woods is NOT supposed to be used to manipulate people or situations. Do u really want that kind of karma...would you want someone to do that to YOU? would you want to make decisions that were not of your own free will? furthermore, if this actually "worked" , would you want to know the only reason he is with you is b/c you worked some ish on him? and god forbid he or anyone in his family ever found out that you even tried this....he might have a relative or someone around him who you don't even know that will detect it and you are going to have serious problems. Last but not least, all of these types of things are not the same. Santeria for instance is a normal religion and in no way should you ever use something that is part of your spiritual life in a negative way. And trying to force a situation b/c you're insecure that it won't happen on it's own is NEGATIVE. It's like a Christian going to church and saying 10 hail mary's wishing for bad on someone. If he's going to be with you, let it be organic. i have to agree with Angela…a true soulmate does not have to be coerced in any way. and i think if she honestly believed he was meant for her, she wouldn’t be insecure enough to be contemplating this.

my answer is NO DON”T DO IT!! first of all, “roots,” “santeria,” “obeah” or whatever they call it in your neck of the woods is NOT supposed to be used to manipulate people or situations. Do u really want that kind of karma…would you want someone to do that to YOU? would you want to make decisions that were not of your own free will? furthermore, if this actually “worked” , would you want to know the only reason he is with you is b/c you worked some ish on him? and god forbid he or anyone in his family ever found out that you even tried this….he might have a relative or someone around him who you don’t even know that will detect it and you are going to have serious problems.

Last but not least, all of these types of things are not the same. Santeria for instance is a normal religion and in no way should you ever use something that is part of your spiritual life in a negative way. And trying to force a situation b/c you’re insecure that it won’t happen on it’s own is NEGATIVE. It’s like a Christian going to church and saying 10 hail mary’s wishing for bad on someone. If he’s going to be with you, let it be organic.

]]> By: Shonuff http://www.alphanista.com/advice-getting-him-back-by-the-roots/comment-page-1/#comment-2320 Shonuff Thu, 30 Apr 2009 18:12:46 +0000 http://www.alphanista.com/?p=3140#comment-2320 Yasmine, Sweetie, this is straight up witchcraft that you are considering. You are a woman of God and witchcraft is a definite NO NO. Witchcraft of any kind unleashes all types of evil and wickedness in your world so I suggest you don't do it. You might get the man but you will also get more than you bargained for if you go this route. You may believe that this man is your soul mate and he just doesn't know it yet, however, no man that doesn't realize this needs that much of your energy. I have a soul mate too that doesn't realize his place yet either, but I surely keeps it movin and if he figures it out he does if not then it wasn't meant to be. Maybe next lifetime. All things happen in God's time, anything outside of that is a NO NO! Yasmine,

Sweetie, this is straight up witchcraft that you are considering. You are a woman of God and witchcraft is a definite NO NO. Witchcraft of any kind unleashes all types of evil and wickedness in your world so I suggest you don’t do it. You might get the man but you will also get more than you bargained for if you go this route. You may believe that this man is your soul mate and he just doesn’t know it yet, however, no man that doesn’t realize this needs that much of your energy. I have a soul mate too that doesn’t realize his place yet either, but I surely keeps it movin and if he figures it out he does if not then it wasn’t meant to be. Maybe next lifetime. All things happen in God’s time, anything outside of that is a NO NO!

]]> By: babydoll http://www.alphanista.com/advice-getting-him-back-by-the-roots/comment-page-1/#comment-2317 babydoll Thu, 30 Apr 2009 14:43:03 +0000 http://www.alphanista.com/?p=3140#comment-2317 This was done on ME. He was West Indian and my most serious relationship, he was into Yoruba aka Voodoo. He said it was another form of Catholishm. I took his word for it ( I was VERY young), then he opended up to how he went to his "spirtual adviser" about me before we EVEN met (we went to the same college, he had his eye on me a year and a half, before we even spoke). I went to Barnes & Nobles and read up on all I could. We were having pretty serious relationship problems, but I couldn't leave him and I told him that "I am going to stay with you, but I don't love you. I just can't leave." Now if you knew me you would know that is so against my character. My father who stays out of my business, intervened and was like what do I have to do for you to leave him, and I just told him I couldn't leave. I physically felt stuck or "rooted" and just couldn't move. And he was happy just to keep me. He had been doing those little "prayers" even after I told him I don't love him anymore. That is NOTHING to play with. It got me back into my Christianity though, because this was obviously bigger than me, got so deep into my bible and when I got to the middle of the bible is when I had the strength to finally leave him. The relationship got so abusive(mentally,emotionally and a few times physically) that I felt like my life was truly in danger. All of this backfired on him, because I left him and moved out of state without him knowing and changed all numbers, email addresses. You can't make someone love you. What God has for you is for you, but once you start to interfere with His plans is when things can turn into a negative. This to me is COMPLETLEY different than positive affirmations which I believe. This stuff here though is a dangerous dangerous game. This was done on ME. He was West Indian and my most serious relationship, he was into Yoruba aka Voodoo. He said it was another form of Catholishm. I took his word for it ( I was VERY young), then he opended up to how he went to his “spirtual adviser” about me before we EVEN met (we went to the same college, he had his eye on me a year and a half, before we even spoke). I went to Barnes & Nobles and read up on all I could. We were having pretty serious relationship problems, but I couldn’t leave him and I told him that “I am going to stay with you, but I don’t love you. I just can’t leave.” Now if you knew me you would know that is so against my character. My father who stays out of my business, intervened and was like what do I have to do for you to leave him, and I just told him I couldn’t leave. I physically felt stuck or “rooted” and just couldn’t move. And he was happy just to keep me. He had been doing those little “prayers” even after I told him I don’t love him anymore. That is NOTHING to play with. It got me back into my Christianity though, because this was obviously bigger than me, got so deep into my bible and when I got to the middle of the bible is when I had the strength to finally leave him. The relationship got so abusive(mentally,emotionally and a few times physically) that I felt like my life was truly in danger.

All of this backfired on him, because I left him and moved out of state without him knowing and changed all numbers, email addresses. You can’t make someone love you. What God has for you is for you, but once you start to interfere with His plans is when things can turn into a negative. This to me is COMPLETLEY different than positive affirmations which I believe. This stuff here though is a dangerous dangerous game.

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