Comments on: A Man Should Love A Woman A Bit More Than She Loves Him

By: Maryann

Maryann — Fri, 31 Jul 2009 20:09:47 +0000

@Alec great example with Frank and well said

By: Alec

Alec — Fri, 31 Jul 2009 15:31:38 +0000

Actually, if a man knows you are unforgiving, and will leave him if you are not treated with respect, then if he loves you more, he will do anything to keep you. That means remaining faithful OR doing everything he can for you to not find out:-).

Men understand the concept of Risk. Men make investments in women and often want a return on that investment. Therefore, if the value of losing a woman can be recouped by getting another woman, then a man will take the risk of cheating, However, if the value of that woman can not be recouped; then loosing her would be a loss. Hence, a man will work to keep her; because loving her more makes for a situation where he has to have her, and he dosn\’t want anyone else to have her. Consequently, in order to sustain hs appreciating investment he will focus on her and not cheat. Most men who have take the risk and cheated on women who they loved more, never get over the loss. Even when they are married to someone else. Perfect example is Frank Sinatra and Eva Gardner. She was the love of his life which he never got over , and tried to get back with her for years after she left him. He never got over her.

By: guest questioner

guest questioner — Tue, 28 Jul 2009 16:59:51 +0000

But i tried and it never happened to me, I feel very bad but don’t you think that will put me in a very difficult situation to deal with the ups and downs of a relationship if i dont have the fuel to keep it going, which is love in this case? I think its for certain reasons i am not loving this guy no matter how much he dedicates himself to me and don’t you think those differences/reasons are going to grow 10 times bigger and start creating more problems? what if someday i meet someone that i could love? but i may not find a love like his.

i’m 30 btw and i want to love am much as i’m loved. i’m just wondering if women could be happy marrying someone they don’t love just because he loved them dearly.

By: anony

anony — Tue, 28 Jul 2009 13:09:14 +0000

@guest

YES, depending on your age and if love/marriage/partnership is a priority then it is ok. Many countries in the world have successful marriages without the two being “in love”. Love is a feeling. It can appear, disappear, grow, change. You can learn to love. And a man loving you so dearly is much more important. Learn to receive.

By: guest questioner

guest questioner — Tue, 28 Jul 2009 08:14:25 +0000

should a woman decide to marry a man who loves her with all his heart and soul(and waited for the last 12 years) but she still doesn’t ?

By: Loving a bottom B

Loving a bottom B — Wed, 08 Apr 2009 13:50:13 +0000

Very good article and I agree with the article. Moreover women should look for a man that love them more then she love him. He will naturally treat her better as well as treat her like his queen, be more loyal, respectful and willing do the work required to make the relationship work. Nevertheless, in my view or in my world I want or prefer it the other way around. Ive had it that way before and I think things worked better that way for me. However that is me and I feel I know what works for me.

By: Nikki

Nikki — Tue, 07 Apr 2009 18:45:28 +0000

Men and women are different. The equivalent of a man’s love is only half of woman’s. He needs more. Thankfully I don’t have that problem and know that I am loved “a bit more”.

By: Maryann

Maryann — Tue, 07 Apr 2009 17:11:03 +0000

It depends on the man but I know that loving a man more than he loves you is a bad sign all around. We can never know how much one loves us. In the meantime, we just have to believe and give love.

By: Brian

Brian — Tue, 07 Apr 2009 16:59:00 +0000

It doesn’t matter how much he loves you – if a man has access and oppurtunity, he will cheat.

Those that won’t – maybe they are better men – or they lack the two variables.

By: Ms. Tee

Ms. Tee — Tue, 07 Apr 2009 16:07:42 +0000

Is monogamy or “not cheating’ the barometer for gauging the depth of love?

Your article states a man who loves you more will be faithful. I consider other expressions of love like provision and support to be more important indicators of sincere love than fidelity.