Did you know there was more than one definition for this word?
Most know manipulation to mean to skewer someone else’s feelings in an unfair manner. “Unfair” is debatable, but let’s not focus on the little things. There is another definition: 2. to handle, manage, or use, esp. with skill, in some process of treatment or performance, and to adapt or change (accounts, figures, etc.) to suit one’s purpose or advantage.
Most great governments and businesses are built on manipulation. Advertising agencies, thrive on it. Here are some situations where you can use it for good:
1) When it is to your advantage to win, no matter if you are right or wrong
2) When it is to your advantage for someone else to win, and make you look good
3) When you love someone who doesn’t love you back (some ladies, are masters with this, he eventually loves them back!)
4) When you need to look like 10 pounds slimmer in that dress, when you are NOT
5) When you have nothing to lose…..
So, next time you hear “manipulate” don’t use to cry and fuss, or force anyone, “manage” your actions to your intended outcome. The people who dislike this word, are those who are the receiving end. More on that soon!
I understand the meaning of this post and it makes sense, and the truth of the matter is we all do it to an extent (some more than others of course).
However, I cannot stand emotionally manipulative people. To me people use emotional manipulation not just control the outcome of a particular situation but to control and abuse you for not being what they want you to be, which is a doormat. Some people can’t be upfront about what they want, especially if it’s something out of the norm (e.g. threesomes/polyamory) so they try to make you feel guilty and therefore give in, obliging their every whim.
I’ve guess I learned a thing or two about manipulation from my mother and being in a abusive relationship ( verbal not physical). Some insecure/weak people will use whatever they have in their back pocket to try to control or gain power over you, coercion (sometimes sexual), dropping subtle threats, etc. Also, men may not be as good at it than women are but some men can definitely win an Oscar for manipulating/coercing women into sex.
I know this is not completely on topic but I’m just giving my pov on manipulation.
IMO, emotional manipulation=victim mentality.
or wigs or weaves!
It makes the world go round! If you wear makeup, you are manipulating people all the time!