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Below is an excerpt of Alphanista’s newest ebook,  How To Do Almost Anything Like An Alphanista!

Some of the unique advice may be controversial, but hey, what would the world be without that?   It details step-by-step how to get 10 things done from making money fast to how to travel with champagne taste like an alpha female!  See the topics here.   You won’t find the details on this blog.

Below is an excerpt…
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How To Bond With A Man (p. 14/30)

Why would a woman want to bond with a man? To get him to commit sooner, of course. Once a man is bonded with you it is hard for him to leave. Actually, he will not want to because he’ll be programmed to believe you are soulmates. Once he believes that, he will treat you better and begin discussing your future together.

Bond with him by doing any of the following:

1) Repeat back what he tells you. Does he have a favorite phrase or saying? Say it! He’ll start to see you and him as one.

2) Let him dress you. Tell him you want to know what to wear. Make him pick out an outfit he likes.

3) Make him dependent on you. Take over a busy part of his life for him. Whether it’s driving, cooking, or managing his social calendar. Take over!

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Let’s Get Technical With…Scarves

By Guest Blogger, Goldie

I want you ladies to be eloquent with your accessories.

Today we’re going to tackle scarves. Every woman has at least one in her closet. I’ve attached a video to this post for a visual learner. From working in a Department store, I have been schooled on the weaving of a scarf to make it work for your outfit. I personally love a colorful scarf but not everyone enjoys patterns or bursts of color.

The first thing I like to introduce to you is simply draping a scarf around your neck. Just be the hanger. It looks nice with a simple outfit like a t-shirt/jean ensemble or blazer/suit look. It’s both casual and business acceptable to display your scarf as a conversation piece. If your scarf is a square, you can fold it in half to have narrow length you can fold it into a triangle and knot the corners.

Another way I like to wear my scarf is to (assuming we are working with a rectangular scarf) hold the middle of the scarf and fold the scarf in half so when I wrap the scarf around my neck, it has a loop I can fit the loose end through. Instantly I’m showcasing my scarf, adding texture to my neckline. If you can understand the second way follow me.

We’re starting with the same doubled scarf that has one loop on one side of your shoulders, and the loose ends on the other side. Take one loose end and fit it through the loop. Now you have one loose end in, and one dangling for his life. Take that lonely loose end and slip it through the loop the opposite way of his first partner. Once you fit the ends in, your scarf will look like a gorgeous tapestry piece. Cheaper than buying a new necklace and so much softer!

I would tell you more but everything is in the lovely video that I offered. There’s pictures and tons of videos so crack out the scarf and go for it.  See below!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KDNHw9WRrgc&feature=related

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cABQn6pTCnw&NR=1

Guest blogger Goldie Goldie is a Public Relations student interested in Fashion Publicity and Reporting. Find out more at www.goldlabeler.com.

ADVICE: I Want To Go From A “Side” To A “Buy”

Dear Alphanista,

I have been having sex with this guy for close to eight months now, your typical friends with benefits, but I have been in love with him for most of the time.

Around three months ago I decided to tell him how I really feel about him, he was shocked and said he needed time to process the info, so he got back to me after some time and told me that he really liked me but could not commit at the time because he had to achieve some things before he could think of dating, we were fresh out of collage then with no job or nothing, so I understood where he was coming from. I, putting my pride to the floor, said that I would wait for him to get his house in order and see how things would go.

Fact is I think I made a mistake, because this guy is the most arrogant being on the face of the planet, he knows he’s got me right where he wants me. He says things like, I know  you can never keep away from me, you are the one who’s in love… I try to be assertive and tell him to go to hell but I am afraid that he might leave, I know this is against all logic but what can I say, am sprung.

How can I go from a lease to a buy? Or is it too late?

Misguided in love,

Ms. W

THIS IS OPEN ADVICE.  I KNOW WHAT TO SAY, BUT WHAT DO YOU THINK BEFORE I CHIME IN?

Please send advice ques (brief and clear) to maryann@alphanista.com.  Everything is anonymous.

Turn Your Worries Into Strategies

By Guest Blogger Sharanya

It was halfway through my second semester at University, on a day when things fell apart that I finally grew up.

Having led a sheltered life for eighteen years, at home with a loving family and having always had good friends, I’d grown accustomed to turning to my support system for help in time of crises. But that day, mired in tears and self-pity, I realized that constantly reaching out to others to cope (as I had done) had over time, rendered me habitually weak and incapable of sustaining that happy equilibrium simply because reaching out only made me feel better without addressing the issues  per se that were the cause of my disappointment . A lot of women, I’ve noticed, followed the same ineffective strategy only to find themselves  in an endless, unfulfilled loop.

Forcing myself to draw strength from within myself, I found a wonderful way of dealing with stress  and I must share it with you. Its tangible because it will help correct the messed up situation(s) while also making you feel great about it, however bad things might seem at the beginning. I now use it whenever necessary.

It helps if I write my way through the following steps, but you can sing it out loud, ponder over it in silence or modify it any way you choose. Here goes!

1.       List out every single thing that’s wrong with your life right now, no matter how trivial or upsetting or embarrassing. List it!
2.       Go problem by problem. Pick out the first one and ask yourself the following questions and answer each question immediately after you ask it:
·         “What is the problem here?”
·         “What caused it?” (You or something outside of you? Be honest, either way.)
·         “How would I rather this situation be, in future, if not now?”
·         “What is it like now?”
·         “What have I been doing to make things better? Have these strategies worked? Why or why not? What could I be doing differently?”
3.       Go to Source-Of-Stress #2. Repeat. Do the same all the way till Source-Of-Stress # N
4.       Check out all the solutions you’ve come up with. See what works best.

The cool thing about this entire process is that it gets you to view the problems as little projects to be executed- it gets you to see each problem for what it is- no more and certainly no less- its gets you to explore creatively novel (or often obvious) solutions that may not strike you when you’re “busy” stressing and ultimately, it puts things in perspective.  Believe me, the kick you’ll get out of taking control of a seemingly messed up situation will far outstrip any momentary comfort you might derive from running home to Mom or ranting with girlfriends over coffee and Kleenex.

Life, even for the Alpha Female, can often get challenging. While there needn’t be any second guessing about choosing Fight over flight, one needn’t make that choice semi-snivelling.

Guest Blogger Sharanya is currently enrolled in a Masters program studying humanities and social sciences in India.

The Women Men Love To Hate

Saw this post over at NecoleBitchie.  Made lots of sense.  I’m not one, are you? LOL

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