Weekend Rewind: My Sex, My Way….

This one deserves a day of its own!  Enjoy this blast from the past for our weekend rewind.  A Classic!

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By Guest Blogger, The Hooker Chronicles

I have to admit it.

Being African American and growing up in a predominantly African American community has been a hindrance for me sexually, as it is for MOST African Americans who grew up in a similar community as mine.  As African Americans we are constantly taught by our Baptist church going, bible toting grannies and aunties that sex is nasty, especially anal and oral.  It wasn’t until my mid 20’s that I decided to buck everything I had learned from my family, and take on my sexual experience with a vengeance.

So armed with my promiscuity and slight intellect, I sought out to prove that what I had learned from church was nothing more than insignificant cultural brain washing.

First things first – I had to learn about other cultures, including ancient ones, and their views on sex and religion.  That search led me to the ancient teachings of the Kama Sutra.  Even in the ancient cites of Tibet and India, the followers worshiped sex deities (Gods), and one in particular was “YabYum”.  Unlike Jesus, YabYum had a wife, and their sexual union was the essence of the entire religion.  Whenever you saw statues of the God YabYum, it was usually him in a sexual act with his wife.  These types of deities and theologies were abundant before the European Christian Crusades destroyed them all and introduced the world to Christianity.

Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not here to spread my anti-Christian message to the masses, because that’s not my duty or desire.  I’m just here to present you with truth, facts, and an unconventional way of viewing sex.

Because lets face it- the world is too large and too old to be hanging onto one little simple minded idea, that we all seem to have learned from our rather simple minded communities.

To find out more about this guest blogger, please go to http://thehookerchronicles.blogspot.com/.

More Millionaires Are Created In A Recession

That’s right!

Bill Gates started Microsoft during a Depression.  Do not let what you hear, slow down your ambitions for more money, status or security.  What have you been putting off?  Now is the time to strike.  You may not be able to get that 5 or 6 figure business loan, but you can start in small steps by marketing and publicizing your efforts, which are essentially free.   Everyday there is an article or tv segment about an everyday person starting their own during a time of strife for many.  At this time, people need hope, encouragement, and a fresh start.

Your story or even the story of your beginning processes of starting a business now can be an inspiration.  A few years ago, I read about the mindset of the everyday, civilian person who lives life as it comes. It said that if the nightly news announced that it will display the winning jackpot-lotto tickets (for a chance to  win) on their website, that something strange would happen.

No matter how much boasting and posturing they do, that 98% of people will forget to log on, be suspicious, review them but never use, postpone it because they think they won’t win since everybody is doing the same thing, and if they use it, may never take it in, and finally if they take it in, may arrive later than others and miss out.  Don’t be like that!  Be the 2% that will.  Be that first person on the line.  Do you believe you could?  It’s more than sheer luck.  No wonder why there are less millionaires out there, it is truly a way of thinking.

Below are some businesses started during a recesssion.  I wonder where these companies are now?

Burger King Corp.
IHOP Corp.
The Jim Henson Company (Miss Piggy, Kermit the Frog and Elmo)
LexisNexis
FedEx Corp.
Microsoft Corp.
CNN
MTV Networks
Trader Joe’s
Wikipedia Foundation Inc.
Sports Illustrated magazine
GE (General Electric Co.)
HP (Hewlett-Packard Development Company LP)

Not only are millionaires created during a recession, but Alphanistas, too.

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5 Reasons To STAY

There’s so much talk about leaving instead of staying.

The break up songs, the break up movies all sound the same–freedom, independence and that greener grass on the other side.   Reports show that more couples are not divorcing, and are sticking it out.  Here are my reasons for staying:

1) You’re broke

2)  You are really in love and are convinced this is your soulmate

3) Communication and sex are phenomenal (though you have other issues, yes, there could be other issues!)

4)  You are best friends

5)  They are rich

Honorable mention: You are “comfortable” and treated well

Did I leave anything out?

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Dating A Baller: 101

By Guest Blogger Toi

Dating a baller exposes you to a wide world of situations and experiences.

You get access to things that most people don’t get to experience. It elevates you to a certain degree. But if you’ve never experienced the lifestyle before, how do you act once you get there?

I’m not going to give you advice on always being available to your baller, or catering to his every whim. There is nothing wrong with pleasing your partner, but it should be balanced with distance. He’s on the move, so you have to know how to deal with having space in a relationship.  You must cultivate the time you’re with him so that the space doesn’t impact the relationship.   Here are some tidbits of advice:

1. A pretty face and a nice figure can attract a baller. But you have to be mentally stimulating to keep the attraction strong. Have something to talk about. Be aware of current events. Stay on top of trends. Know what he is interested in so you can have intelligent conversation with him about it, creating a bond between you.

2. Speaking of pretty faces and nice figures, make sure you are presentable at all times. You will be arm candy and you have to look the part. Don’t wear makeup to bed, but you need to be well groomed even when dressed down.

3. Be chill, have a sense of humor. Some women are so uptight, trying too hard to fit the mold of what they think their man wants them to be like. He will be more attracted to you if you are yourself. Men know when women are being fake and trying too hard, and it turns them off. Would you want to be with someone you can’t be yourself with?

4. Take something from those experiences that being with a baller opens you up to.  A good baller will respect your savvy. Kimora Lee Simmons married Russell Simmons, the godfather of hip hop at age 18. Instead of settling for being a pampered housewife, she created Baby Phat and turned it into one of the most memorable lifestyle brands in fashion and hip hop culture. She took what she learned from Russell and made it into her own legacy.

5. Don’t be so transparent. Retain some of your mystery. When a person knows every detail about you, what else is there to know? Create intrigue. Give a little, hold back a little. Listen more than you talk. You would be surprised how much a man will open up to you.

6. Show him your independence without being emasculating. Do things out of the ordinary, and tell him about it. This doesn’t have to be extreme. It can be as simple as telling him about that amazing Korean barbeque place where you and your friends dined or skipping town and going on a road trip to a city you’ve always wanted to visit. Create experiences so you have great stories to tell. He will be intrigued by your spontaneity.

7. Don’t ask for money too soon. Establish the relationship with him, get to know him before raiding his wallet. If you are just looking for cash you should find a sugar daddy. If you are really into him, think long term benefit, not short term gain.

To date a baller, you need to be fun, interesting, and as drama free as possible. Being with you must be a place of solace for him rather than a source of stress. These men are highly sought after, but only a few women have the guts to get the glory.  Know the rules before you jump in the race!

Toi Duckworth is a sophisticated b-girl from Los Angeles who dishes on urban lifestyle topics via her blog, http://hiphopmuse.com.

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How To Arrange Your Life

So, I came across this article by Sophie Lhoste called What I Love About Energy Healing, the other day and it completely moved me.

Can you arrange your life?  Or re-arrange?

Folks complain about their current circumstances, and with all the recent quick deaths in the news, it makes you realize how transient life can be.  You might as well enjoy it while you here.  With you, being at the center of it, of course.  Arranging your life would be very much like a creating a recipe.  You know the taste and flavors you want.  It’s all about finding the right ingredients, applying the exact amounts, and voila!  Better yet, it can be like arranging furniture in your living room, until it “feels” right.

Below are some tips from the article:

1) Change locations if need be. Surround yourself with easy, country living or fast paced, city living.  Find out where you flourish.  If you like small circles of friends and people you know, then nourish yourself by living in the “right” place.

2)  Take a look at your surroundings. Do you look at the window and see something you love?  I live in Brooklyn, but I can see nothing but green around me because I am attached to a church’s backyard.  I call it my “garden”.   Do you like taking the train?  Driving to work?  What can you do to make your day, easier, smoother?

3)  Consider what you are giving to others. Even if it’s as small as advice or a hug, plant your seeds by doing something for someone else.  Even if it’s taking out the trash or picking up the mail.  That’s all good energy!

4) Control the social media you utilize. Whether it’s Twitter or Facebook, create an online world that is conducive to how you think and want to feel.  Make sure your online community reflects the kind of people who can provide support and love, while keeping things interesting.  You don’t want to “fight” online or “ignore” folks that you can simply delete.

5)  Learn to let things (and people) go. When you hold on to grudges, life gets lonely and complicated.  Find those around you who you may be harboring things against.  Say a silent prayer to them, send them light, then bye bye.  Keep things in your world with others as peaceful as possible.

Bear in mind, that life is a constant re-arranging of things until you simply just accept, receive and surrender.

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