Father, May I…Touch You?

I am sure most of you by now heard of Father Alberto Cutie in Miami who was “exiled” by the Catholic church after he fell in love with a woman and was caught cavorting on the beach with her.

Now, he has left (or kicked out) the Catholic Church and has taken up with the Espicopalian Church.  Well, amidst all the talk of this affair and this man’s dilemma between church and love, I thought about this woman in the picture.   And it’s confirmed.  Only, an Alphanista can make the impossible, seem possible.  Here’s a bit from article:

Cutie later said he had fallen in love with the woman and broken his vow of celibacy. He apologized for his behavior, but told the Univision Spanish-language television network, “I didn’t stop being a man just because I put on a cassock. There are trousers under this cassock.”  The woman in the photographs, identified in media reports as Ruhama Canellis, stood at Cutie’s side as he held a news conference at Trinity Cathedral, where the couple underwent a ceremony to join the Episcopalians.

He and and Ruhama plan to get married, and are already engaged.  Wow.  There you go ladies, not saying to go storm the churches, but never think something is too “hard” or “impossible” to happen with whoever or whatever you have your eyes set on.  She ventures where no woman goes!

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Need A Big Girl Time Out?

By Guest Blogger Karen Vaughn

Every morning we put on our superwoman cape and take on what ever the world throws at us…literally. But when our super powers begin to dwindle, we become overwhelmed and stressed out.  Here are my five tips for beating stress and working towards balance.

–Stay organized. Chaos and balance will never mix. Being unorganized can slow down your productivity and bring on stress in a big way. Get things in order now to save you a head-ache later.  Click here for my Get Organized at Work tips.

–Sort it out. We are masters at solving problems. Some situations are just harder to sort than others. Take baby-steps and work  through the issue slowly. Make a list as to how you can work through the situation and follow through with it.

–Get some rest. Sometimes we cannot work through a situation because we are to physically drained to deal with it. Take a power nap if you can. If not, step out side and get some fresh air. And when you get home, try to go to bed early.

–Ask for help. Why do we always feel we have to do it alone. That is what family, friends and co-workers are for…support, love and   assistance.  SEEK, ASK & BUILD!

–Love. As you move through your day do everything with love. Take time to give and show love and your will receive love.

Even Wonder Woman has some tough days.  Now, we may not have an invisible jet and golden bracelets but we can work it out.

Karen Vaughn is a top rated major market radio personality whose keep it real approach and sister-friend point of view can be hear on Star 99.7 in Charleston, SC and via her blog www.WorkingDivas.com.

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QUIZ: Are You Living Life By Default?

It doesn’t matter anymore about what’s right or what’s wrong.  You just want to win.

Sometimes, through the resignation of being either right or wrong, that’s how some of the best battles are won in life.  You still keep the peace, get what you want, and take the prize home.  Many memorable female cultural icons weren’t consumed by decorum but, they broke barriers and some of them broke hearts. Sometimes, a girl has to be a little “bad” to get things done in this world.    The late Former Prime Minister of Pakistan Benazir Bhutto, Madonna, Oprah, Marilyn Monroe, Elizabeth Taylor, Kimora Lee Simmons, Anna Wintour, Margaret Thatcher, and Martha Stewart are just some alpha-female types who have left their mark on the world in ways not everyone was happy about. From these, you can learn a lot about how to take control of your own circumstances as an alphanista.   You don’t have to live life by default.

You may envy these women because the truth is, life can brings great rewards when you push it around a little, and an alphanista doesn’t mind rocking the boat.  Take the quiz below and find out where you stand. (Scroll over the top of the words on the quiz if you can’t see question). Enjoy!

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Weekend Rewind: Tip 9 How To Be An Alpha Female

Classic, flashback! Enjoy!

“An alpha female is not a bitch; and abhors the comparison because she revels in using her sweetness to get her way, not evil…”

A common misconception about the alpha female is that she’s an evil bitch.

It couldn’t be more wrong.  A bitch is just a bitch, a very bitter, miserable woman who thinks it’s cute to be mad at everything.  She has no clear objective, targets or strategies.  It’s all about how she’s “feeling” and roller cycle emotions.  An alpha female doesn’t like bitches.  For instance, Martha Stewart is mistakenly described as a bitch, when she is really an alpha female disarming the world by baking cookies.  Actually, if an alpha female’s your boss expect her to fire the department on Friday, and bring a basket of fresh baked cupcakes (that she made herself, thank you) to the rest of her underlings urgently waiting her arrival.  They’ll eat and be thankful that she spared them, and fed them!

The major difference between the bitch and the alpha female is that the alpha female believes in catching bees with honey while the bitch catches bees with poo poo.  Let’s look at two examples.  The first is a bitch who is in a relationship with a man who treats her badly and ignores most of her needs.  The bitch would run him down demanding all kinds of excuses for his actions, threatening him with leaving every two weeks, and bad mouths him to family and friends with hopes that the pressure will break him down to be a better man.  Whew, now that’s a lot of useless work.

An alpha female in the same situation may explore a few different options tailored to her man’s temperament.  But to keep things simple, now hold on to your tiaras ladies, she may actually not give a damn.  True her feelings may be hurt, but she realizes the responsibility to change can only be within her.  She won’t demand him to explain his actions because she knows most people will only play defensive to protect themselves.  She doesn’t threaten to leave unless she’s 110% sure. This is one woman when it’s over, it’s over for good.  She doesn’t bad mouth him to others because it will only make her look as crazy as he is for staying.  Her self image is very important because she knows most of what you get in life is by how others perceive you.  Her word is her bond too.  She doesn’t like playing with them.  Bad mouthing him only adds more nails to the coffin of the relationship because words become reality.

What she does is simply change how she sees the relationship.  It may have started as Mr. Right, but he has turned into Mr. Right Now.  She’ll pursue other interests, maybe even other men on a casual basis, and provide even more space in the relationship until he realizes there’s almost none left.  In between this, she’ll make efforts to communicate, but she will not withhold sex or play any other kinds of games.  She’s simply changing her perspective. If this is not the man for her, she has to keep it moving (we will discuss how to deal with men of high net worth next time because it’s a tad bit different).

Running a man down is not something she’s good at.  As she runs him down, she may end up pushing him in front of a car.  Her main concern is her own sanity and her direction in life.  She loves her man, but she loves herself a little bit more.

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Alphanistas Like That “Fresh” Look

With Memorial Day weekend right here, everyone’s talking about the beach….

But if you can’t get away, look like you have!  Whether you are brown, black or pale, every skin looks nice sunkissed.  I normally like applying bronzer on my legs and on the bridge of my nose and cheeks, where the sun would naturally touch.  I’ll take a real tan over a bronzer, any day, but when you have to decide between the plane ticket and well, you know.

Check out “10 Bronzers Getting Lots Of Love” on Glimmer. Gloss. Glow.  Now, glow!

Here’s what Keri says, owner and author of the site about the few I like:

Chanel Soleil Tan de Chanel
Price: $48
They say:  “The velvety finish of this light cream-gel bronzer leaves your skin with a beautiful sun-bathed look. Wear it on its own, or for a hint of outdoors radiance, over or under your favorite CHANEL foundation.”
Our take:  There is enough product in this tub to last nearly forever, it smells amazing, and is so versatile.  This bronzing base is a cream to powder that can be worn over, under, or in place of foundation.  It has a smell that is divine and the quality that is Chanel.

Benefit Hoola Boxed Bronze
Price: $28
They say: “Looking for a goddess-like glow? Wanna be sun-kissed and sexy? Need a perk-me-up? Whatever your wish for radiance, you’ll find it in this collection that guarantees a sweep of powder a day keeps the “wow you’re gorgeous!” compliments coming your way. Mix, match, sweep on sexy, and see for yourself what all the fuss is about.”
Our take: This one is perfect for lighter skin tones because starts out light and can be built up to a darker color.  This is a great pick for those looking for a bronzer without glimmer, shimmer, or glitter, but if you need it to throw in your purse for on-the-go, the box design can be difficult.

Go to “10 Bronzers Getting Lots Of Love” for more!

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