Weekend Rewind: Tip 7 How To Be An Alpha Female

“An alpha female is full of contradictions often keeping her male partner in a suspended state, not sure exactly what to do with her…”

A man will never forget an alpha female.

There’s usually that one man or woman in our life, okay sometimes two or three that stand out from the rest. Rest assured that if you’re an alpha female, you may be the bar he’s holding other women up against. You may be the prototype those poor, other unassuming females have to compete with. You’re the proverbial phantom in the relationship that never seems to go away. One of the reasons is that, though the alpha female is well put together and straightforward, and a very reasonable woman, a man may never really know if she’s coming in through the front door or the back.

One week it may be hot with an alpha female—phone calls, bubbly, dining, soft whispers, giggly moments on the phone together, then the next week she is gone—doesn’t return phone calls, disappears for a few days, is elusive, reserved. It’s all something that may be planned or not. But she’ll usually keep an air of mystery, until she finds her compatible alpha male.  In the meantime, she will keep men in suspended states. Oftentimes, this may cost her a few good ones along the way. Why is she like this? Because she can’t completely be herself until she can see her future in this man’s eyes.  It may be a life long quest, but until that magnificent feeling, it’s all up for review.  On another note:  Beta men don’t quite have a handle on the alpha female and quickly take any form of distance as a sign of rejection. This is a red flag for an alpha female.

Beta men are easily offended, move on quickly, because they are quite undecisive. They are not the top pick among women so their egos are softer and they need to go through more women to find the right one. Where as the alpha male who is the top pick, finds his alpha females more of a challenge, a woman to be conquered. He may not react right away, and spend time with betas, but eventually he’ll make his way back to her. He has more women around him to choose from, and because of his need to sire alpha children he will choose his alpha female counterpart if she’s available (unfortunately, she usually isn’t because her numbers are few) to mate with. These unions usually create something spectacular in way of legacy and alpha progeny. Now, he can move on, but an alpha female won’t let him get away that easily, especially if he’s of high net worth or social status.

It’s so much easier to have our way with beta men. Until we meet our alpha male, and some of us are married to him, that is when we can be our true selves. As I said, something about an alpha male, when I see him, I walk differently, and I am like the soft petals of a rose around him—light, calm and relaxed. I fall right into my lane.

But if an alpha female has zoned in on an alpha male, be careful. She’s very persistent in making her presence known. She knows what she wants. She won’t stop until he catches her.

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Casual Saturdays, Never The Same…

….Again.  Love this look for a day of doing errands on a Saturday instead of the sweats and jeans…..thoughts?

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Can A Woman Seduce Another Woman?

Well, let’s look at one definition of seduction: to win over; attract; entice.  And another:  to lead or draw away, as from principles, faith, or allegiance.  With both of these definitions in mind, then yes.  And you should.

This has more to do with psychology than sex.  You did know, that there is more than 1 way to get things done in this world, and more than 1 meaning to everything.  Right?  Here, we’re focusing on “seducing” a woman who has something you want abstract that you want–be it friendship, access, or just someone good to have in your corner.

Seduction methods should be used on everyone.  In order to seduce anyone, you must be disarm them first.  Leave them vulnerable, and wanting more, so that they are easier to lead.  Among women, this can be something new, as women are trained to be “nice” to each other.  But in a world of high stakes, you can be nice, but you also need to know how to get your way with other women.  You need to be able to have them give you things that will you propel you.

Women hold the keys to lots of information–whether it be that handsome, wealthy man who is just become available, the position at the Governor’s office she’s scouting for, or just being close to someone whose advice can change your life and destiny.   Naturally, these types of women are normally suspicious of other women who come around.  They put up road blocks and keep their social circles tight and close knit.  But if there is anyone in this world who is going to stop you from getting ahead, it’s going to be another woman.

I’ve been “seduced”.   I’m an easy catch, tho.  But there are some women who will make you “earn” your stripes.    First, quickly bond with other women by using their same gestures, almost like with men.  Somehow, people subconsciously think you are “soulmates” when you do this.  It is also possible to have a soulmate of the same sex that is nonsexual, but that is another post.  Next, compliment her, ask questions and make her talk, even if you’re not listening to a syllable of it.  If you see something she likes whether in the store or other, tell her about it.   Also, touch her.  Studies show when you touch someone you talk to immediately forms an instant closeness or comfortableness.   Make sure it’s at the arm, or hair, don’t touch any other part of her if you don’t want to be embarrassed.

There may be women who want to take this further with you, as in sexual, be aware and prepared for that.  Furthermore, position yourself as a woman who has something to offer too, find out what she wants out of life or a goal, and tell her you already did it or have it.  Lie, if need be.   If she asks for it, then get it–pronto.  This is good to use to peek her interest even more.  Remember, to be valuable to anyone you have to have something to leverage.

Finally, be wise with who you do this with.  If you look at life as one big seduction game from the real estate agent to the bus driver, you’ll find people, and life, are easier to deal with.  Who said seduction should just be between lovers?  Women know women who are more “friendlier” than others.  So, don’t use this approach on someone who going to freak out because you touch their shoulder.  I don’t have to tell an Alphanista that and other obvious signs you should avoid.  I’m talking about dealing with power broking women, women who understand that the mind of a woman is very much like a man when it comes to seduction.  They will go along with the ride, enticed by your unusual ways.  They understand that at the end of board meeting, we all want results.

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Not Everybody is “Thick”, Just Fat

By Guest Blogger Zabeth

Let’s not pretend we don’t all know the difference. Beyonce is what one would call “thick;” Jennifer Hudson on the other hand isn’t…if you get my drift.

You know good and well if you’re over weight or, if you just have some curves. If you’re truly clueless, calculate your BMI.

The real question here is why does unhealthy weight have a stranglehold on black women? There are a myriad of reasons:

America’s Diet

Americans overall are fat. We eat too much fast food consisting of portions large enough to feed a family of five and our lifestyle has become less active.

It’s a Black Thing

I remember purchasing a candy bar at a convenience store the black man behind me said “You’ll get fat eating candy bars,” to which I responded “I work out.” He looked at me surprised and said “Black women don’t work out!” Well this one does and part of me did want to tell him to mind his own business but, what this exemplifies is that a black woman showing an interest in diet and exercise can be viewed as strange and, not something “we” do.

It is true that black men are traditionally more accepting of a woman with a fuller figure but, that should not be used as a scapegoat for taking things to an extreme.

It Makes Life Easier

It does. Excess weight means you don’t have to participate in life. If you feel unattractive due to being overweight you don’t have to do the hard work of being in a relationship. You can’t fear rejection if you’ve already been rejected. I’ve had women tell me this.

It’s also very hard to stay motivated and disciplined.

Lack of Knowledge and Access

As previously stated Americans overall have a horrible diet and, in some communities we grow up exposed to unhealthy food choices. This is something that has to be unlearned. Moreover, research indicates that a person’s class and socioeconomic level can have an effect on their weight (wealthier women tend to be slimmer). This is reflective of a lack of access to quality and healthy foods as well as a lack of information about nutrition.

So what can an alphanista do to stay slim and trim? Try these on for size:

-Get active: hit the gym, go hiking, swim, ride your bike to work.

-Hire a personal trainer or nutritionist to help guide you.

-Purchase a subscription to a fitness magazine like Self, Shape, or Women’s Health

-Unlearn bad food habits.

-Don’t succumb to what others may think.

-Most importantly stay motivated!

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Starting soon, this blog will be updated a little less than everyday, until further notice.

I’m working on a new membership site for alphanistas ready to enhance and transform their life at every level based on all that is, alpha–top, prime, premiere advice, guidance and resources.  It is an affordable, paid membership site that offers a 6 month life makeover in every area!  It’s fun, deep, sexy, serious, and fascinating.

Why did I start it?  Because I was getting email after email asking for something more.   Every time I created a product for Alphanista it sold.  There was a segment of visitors that wanted more than a blog, they wanted service.  That is what I’m committed to do!  Complete with how-to articles, videos, an interactive forum, members will be privy to the Alphanista way of life written by yours truly, with access to other experts and resources.

After I gathered my research and created a plan, some of which has been written about on this blog, I wanted to make sure that it could help. That it was based on techniques and principles that any woman, young or older, would be able to apply.  I showed it around, and the consensus was that it can.  Here’s a quote fromtv/radio pyschologist, reoccuring expert on The Today Show and author Dr. Jeff Gardere:

Maryann gives you the structure and the “some place to start” we all need. If you can articulate what you want out of life then you can do this! Maryann has created a plan that is clear, provocative and informative, everything is there for you at your fingertips. Overlook her smart advice at your own expense.

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