An Alphanista vs. HMW

By Guest Blogger, Te-Erika Patterson

Although an Alphanista and an HMW (High Maintenance Woman) may bear remarkable similarities in appearance due to their immaculate flair for style and unflinching flock of followers, the buck stops there. When it comes to dealing with the various intricacies of life the two could not be more different in their approaches.

Friendships
In friendships, the HMW requires devotion and attention. She must be complimented by her friends on every occasion and she seeks their approval when making decisions for her life, although she would never admit to it. She is fickle when it comes to relationships with women. If one of her so called friends does not consistently adore her, she will walk away without even so much as a goodbye, turning to others who will readily give her the admiration that she craves.

Although the Alphanista is usually the most dominant of her circle of friends, she leads in a covert way that is not demanding and allows those around her to believe that they are actually calling the shots. The Alphanista is turned off by women who cling to her every word and mimic her every move. She is supercharged most by fellowshipping with other Alphanistas whose inclination to make their unique mark on the world pushes her to want more and do more.

Business
In business relationships, the HMW is a stickler for details. She is a very savvy business woman because she will cover all of the bases and is sure to get all of the facts before she makes a decision.

The Alphanista has an innate business instinct that she follows without fail. She knows where she is going and even when she is unsure of the steps necessary to get there, she trusts herself to make the best decisions for her life and career and is fueled by her independence. She doesn’t have to check with anyone before making a business move, she is confident enough to deal with any praise or repercussions that may be the result of her efforts.

Style
The HMW is a slave to fashion trends. She is usually spotted on the front row of every fashion show or buying out all of the high end fashion magazines to keep pace with the changing times. She would never wear last season’s handbag or be caught dead breaking any of the many faux paus of style. You will always be impressed by the HMW when you see her at an event- and you should- she takes great effort to maintain her perfection.

The Alphanista usually sports a more classic looks than those regurgitating the fair weather style of the season. She laughs at the trend setters and their followers because she knows that trends are fleeting and require too much work to maintain. She often has a signature accessory like a scarf, perfume or pair of sunglasses which becomes well known as her trademark and is admired and copied by those wishing to be more like her.

Love
When it comes to love and romance, the HMW can snag any man who is eager to feed her addiction to praise and approval. She is often lucky at love due to the fact that there are many men who cling to women who have the appearance of success. In relationships, the HMW is clearly the dominant force, however, she leads by making demands and punishing those who are unable to meet them. Submissive men are a good match for the HMW.

While the HMW is attracted to men who are eager to do her bidding, the Alphanista can not stand a man who is a go-to boy. She is also dominant in her countenance but she knows she can reach greater heights in life with a man who is just a bit more dominant than she is. He is a smooth individual who picks and chooses his battles carefully, knowing full well when to put the smack down and when to sit down and be quiet which delights the Alphanista because she never knows what to expect.

Which one are you?

To find out more about this guest blogger, please go to http://te-erika.blogspot.com/.

Career Moves For Life Moves

If you can’t marry them (yet), join them.

There are several careers that’ll have you mixing and mingling with hi profile folks in no time.  Some folks are resigned to the office job, but for those that like to socialize and revel in our capitalist ideals of “who you know, not what you know”, it’s about building relationships.

It starts at schools like Sidwell (Obama girls go there) and continues post-college.  But if you never had the chance when you were younger, there’s still an opportunity to get new skills and challenge yourself around new environments.

Ever wondered why that leggy, 6 foot tall, modelesque beauty is showing apartments on the Upper East Side?  She’s not a part of building’s welcoming committee!

Below are some professions that aren’t too grinding (I mean, 9-5 wise) and can “help” you:

–Selling hi-end residential real estate

–Selling private jets or chartering private jets

–Receptionist at hi end art gallery or luxury car showroom

–Publicist/Personal Assistant to Hi Profile Couple or Individual

–Modeling

–Flight Attendant

–Part time work at non profits

–Ski instructor in Aspen

Well, why are you still sitting there?  Start making those phone calls!  You won’t find these online.

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He Said/ She Said Game: Your Side Of The Story

It’s been a long time, but here’s another one.  Both sides of the story because there always is! This is an unusual case because they two still live together, but may not after this. So, who won this one? I think someone is afraid to sip the kool-aid…You decide!
If you are a subscriber and interested in sharing your side of the story, email me.

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Doreen, 37, nurse
Trey and I have been together for 11 years and have 2 boys.

We are both in our late thirties. When we met it was instantaneous. We moved in together after a week! Yup, my lease was ending that week we met and he was like “F it move in with me”. He had a nice crib (which we still live in this day). So I was immediately inaugurated into wifey duties from day one. I got pregnant after the third month. As soon as I got pregnant he told me getting married was the next thing. We had agreed that we would go to the City Hall and make it happen before our son came. Nothing happened. I was always sick with the baby and he had started a new job and couldn’t get the time off. Fast forward 10 more years, another son, and no ring. I got a “promise” ring. Yeah, okay. Anyway, when Vday passed and he worked that night, I was furious. Both our families were humming that it is time to make it happen. I am so fed up. As I write this I need to know if he is ever going to marry me and why not. Believe me I can deal with the answer. I just need to know.

Trey, 37, Firefighter
I love Doreen so lemme get that out of the way.

But just because I love the girl don’t mean I have to marry her. I did make a few promises but that was because she forced me. I never wanted to be married. My parents ain’t married after 30 years her mother and father same thing. Doreen just got too many female knuckleheads putting crap in her head. She sees them getting married talking about dresses and what not and she wanna floss too. She just wants to show off with the little we got. She’s embarrassed. But what’s that go to do with me? She agreed to move in with me, she’s stayed and she will stay. Maybe if she had told me earlier about waiting on the kids to get married maybe I would’ve thought about it. We’re never getting married. Is that what she wanted to hear? Because I told her that a million times!

Virgin Monologues: Take Care Of The Temple

By Guest Blogger, Gladys Wilson (ohthesweet)

Thank you everyone, Thank you. Before I accept this award, I would like to thank all of the people who have helped me get here.

Most of all I would like to thank me Mother and my Father for my Genes….

We all have genes and they make us either apple bottoms, flat bottoms or no bottoms at all. We have been given a set of genes and yes, I know you had no choice, but you got what you have so now move on. There is no excuse for us to misuse and desecrate this beautiful temple we have all been given.

The female body is one of the most beautiful structures God made on this earth. Just ask any man he will agree with me. Our skin tones vary from milk chocolate to dark chocolate and all of the shades in between. Our curves go from deep to wide. Yes ladies, we have a mighty fine body.

I want to leave you with one word, holistic. We need to be concerned about our body, mind and soul. Being a virgin is more than just what I will not do with a man. It is a holistic approach to life. I have the need to be perfect in all areas of my life and health is in my top 10 category. I may have gotten certain genes from my parents that predispose me to certain diseases, but I choose my destiny according to the man up stairs. Here are the two preventable diseases that women my be predisposed to, and they are making HEADLINES:

• Heart Disease (more women are dying from it than breast cancer)
• Type 2 Diabetes (can be prevented with weight control and smart living)

Prevent these diseases by exercising, eating right, hugging as many loved as you can in a day and take some time to feed your mind and your soul.

To find out more about our guest blogger, please go to http://ohthesweetpromise.wordpress.com/.

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