Checkmate! Mind Games That Win

Or do they?

I was reading Blogxilla the other day, about the mind games women play.  Some alphanistas are “experts” at this and know how to work a anybody’s mind to get what they want.  But I caution against that as a way to communicate all the time.

It’s true that men and women do play mind games with each other, but it’s no more about a game, than it is about survival.  Most of these “games” are based on fear.  Fear of being hurt, rejected, wronged, or whatever other little pesky emotional squabble you can think of.   And I don’t think these “games” are reserved just for daters, but carry out in other areas of our life, like work.  Fear is bad, fear slows you down and gives a false sense of control over the circumstances.  I may be guilty of one or two in the past ;) Here is what I read:

1.  The Phone Game–”Women don’t want a man to think they are chasing them or clingy. Most time she’s just going to wait a few hours or a few days.”

This is true.  But that is because men have done that to women for so long.  It doesn’t make anyone wrong.  You should call someone back when you are ready to talk, not exactly when they called you.  This game can keep you by yourself though, because if you are fiddling with the phone and you really like someone, they may get the wrong message and give you the dail tone all together.  It’s so easy to move on these days.  But my motto for a good man is –consistency and persistency.  As long as he has that, we are good.  So, don’t stop calling.

2.  The I’m Not Ready Game–”Women need time to weigh the risk of their actions, so a dude should just fall back, show her the same amount of interest that she shows you.”

This “not ready” explanation increases as a woman gets older.  The more distractions and daily going ons she has in her life the less likely she is to jump at the next man who smiles at her.  This can be bad because you may miss a chance to grow.  I’ve never been about time tables, I’ve always been about gut feeling.  Do it, if you feel it.  Though you should be a person who honors their decisions, and won’t reget any sudden moves later.  This is for grown women only.  If you’re not grown, then take the time that you need, and hold the conferences with your girlfriends to make up your mind.

3.  The Grown Up Game or Sex Game–”Women like to use sex to get a man to do what they want. It’s not exchanging sex for money but it’s more like a reward for a job well done. ”

True.  Money is the root of all evil, and the precursor to the panties coming off.  Depends on how much money a man has, tho, and how genetically blessed he is.  If you don’t have money, then you have to deal with not getting any each time you mess up.  So, if a man wants to avoid being controlled by sex, it will never end.  That’s part of the fun of being a woman. Why take away one of the few things we have left?

The game list goes on.

10 Reasons She Hates Men

A few weeks ago, I posted the reasons Why Men Hate Women.  This is the other side.

It’s said that the more sex a woman has the less likely she is to worry about the “little” details below.  She’s sunnier, calmer, and less affected.  For the other 90% of women, they have a bone to pick.  If you have any of these “issues” and you are over 30, please work on yourself. These reasons are just beginnings that can lead to the hatred.

Below is just the tip of the iceberg.

1.  She hasn’t had sex in years as she waits for the “right” one

2.  She hasn’t had sex in years as she waits for the “right” one

3.  She hasn’t had sex in years as she waits for the “right” one

4.  She has more than two baby daddies that have moved on

5.  She let her man move in and she gets kicked out

6.  She blames men for her single status or “married” status depending on how that’s going

7.  She listens to all her female friend’s man problems and wonders why her “perfect” girlfriends are single

8.  She’s fed up waiting for men to make the first move and is constantly going out with no avail

9.  She has signed off most men as “gay” who are single, wear pink, don’t buy her a drink, and don’t have any children by 35

10.  She got pregnant and thought that would keep him (SURPRISE)–it didn’t

So, is anything missing?

This Is What Happens When You Need Therapy

You get gun tattoos?

I was on NecoleBitchie this morning and judging by the comments folks are not happy with Rihanna.

And these tats are just testament that this chick is crazzazy….

She couldn’t wait a few months?

5 Ways To Take A “Vacation”

A vacation doesn’t have to take days or weeks.

It can simply be 24 hours to just a few hours of being at peace or giving your body a break.  Just being still.  It’s not about doing nothing, but doing nothing with a purpose.

1) Have a Stiff Drink In Bed–I prefer Grand Marnier or Henny in a sniffer

2) Have A Meatless Day-Let your body rest from all the food processing–Eat Veggies, Brown Rice With Onions, Sea Salt, Ginger, Cilantro as seasonings

3)  Healing Bath–Take a nice, hot 20 min epsom salt bath with baking soda and a few drops of lavender oil

4)  Do Not Answer Email For A Day–This can also include a Facebook/Twitter detox depending on your strength

5)  Indulge Your Tastebuds–If you are one to watch what you eat all the time, throw caution to the wind and buy that cake, ice cream, cheeseburger, or treat yourself to an extravagant meal.  Too often people act like food is the enemy, forget all that and treat yourself.

So what do you need?

Leave My Breasts Alone

All of these new vaccines are scaring women.

There’s a breast cancer vaccine now. The pills to stop a woman’s menstrual cycle are just frightening. Everything comes with an effect now or later. Even worse, this breast cancer vaccine won’t be free, another way for the health care industry to make money?

One of the causes of breast cancer is reported to be blamed on the longer time women are waiting to have children.  It has something to do with the amount of mentsrual cycles a woman has.

It makes me question, outside of genetic factors, do we need more drugs or just better mating habits? If vaccines are an only option, they should be used cautiously.

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