Semen Saves Lives, So They Say

A little something to think about this weekend.  This is an oldie but goodie, posted previously.  We will be back on Monday with regular postings.

Well, got a note on twitter that someone read that semen is an anti-depressant. Of course it is! Let’s be honest. It’s a fact that women who are getting some are more happier, lighthearted, whimisical, fun, and laugh more. Ever notice the girl on the job who can let things go, comes in a little late almost every morning, smiles till she makes you sick, and brings her own lunch? She’s on anti-depressants. (I feel a list coming on). This is a scientifically based fact. To keep it simple, here’s what wikipedia says:

In studies, women who did not use condoms but instead absorbed semen vaginally (as was the norm among humans before increased concerns of contracting HIV or other sexually-transmitted diseases) sustained a better mood. Research has not yet demonstrated whether this effect may also be obtained from consuming semen following oral sex, but researchers hypothesize similar benefits.

(leaving room now)

Can An Alpha Female Be In A Polygamous Relationship? Yes.

First and foremost, and you’ll hear me say this a lot: Alpha females are more than a woman.  They are not typical females with typical responses and reactions to things.  They even believe they are not “women” per say and will always remind you that woman’s liberation was not her liberation because she was born liberated.  More on that later.

But back to polygamy.  For this type of situation to exist the alpha female in a polygamous culture has to be the dominant female among the wives.  Right now, we’ll focus on the polygamous arrangements in Arab and African countries (South Africa, Sudan, etc) and increasing in some parts of Asia (Thailand) that legally permit up to more than one wife, usually up to 4.  Polygamy is often toted for the household help and financial stability it gives to the wives.  With that said, the alpha female would have to be the first or the last wife.  No one ever forgets the first or the last in anything.  In a polygamous marriage the women help each other and are fully aware of each other’s role.  Her role would be very much like the alpha-female wolf.  She’ll watch over all the other females, and her husband.  She will dominate the other wives and use them to her advantage.  She will be the one they congregate around and wait for orders from. 

She will divvy up duties amongst the wives and have them so busy that when the husband comes around for some lovin’ they are exhausted.  The thing about the alpha female is that the other wives will let her do this.  They want to please her more than the husband.  When she is happy everyone is happy.  So, she may have wife Susan do the grocery shopping and drop off the products at each of their houses, wife Shanice will take the children to school in the mornings and prepare their lunches, wife Marlene will pick them up from school and help with homework, and twice a week, two wives take turns cleaning each other’s homes and babysitting the kids for the special night with the husband. What does the alpha female do?  She just stays alpha and keeps it all running like a well oiled machine.

We often say we would “never” do certain things, but we never know what life brings us.  An alpha female in a polygamous culture, who wants to marry is not going to let 3 other wives stop her.  She sees them as the help, not the competition. 

We can take this to another level and ask what are we letting get in the way of what we want from our lives?  Many times it’s not outside elements, but the element staring you in the mirror.

“What Hair Products Do You Use?” Dominicans…

That’s what I told a girl at a car rental place last week when she asked me about my hair, a question I get alot, even Wendy Williams told me she liked my hair when I was on her show a while ago.  Now, you know Wendy does not skimp on words.  She’ll tell you if it ain’t right.  I told the girl at the car rental place, besides the Dominicans, I use very little hair products, period.  I just don’t have the time to play in my hair all day.  The only product I put in my hair to keep it long, thick and full of body is a relaxer every 3 months.  And it ain’t the hip, technology improved new style relaxers on the market now.  It’s old school—Optimum with the stinky smell and all.  It has never failed me.  Keeps my hair thick.  I also never use a blow dryer, just wash and set. My hair is very dry, and another reason why I don’t fool around with products because my hair sucks it all in.  Then it weighs it down.  For now, I stick to John Frieda Glossing Mist as a shining spray and that is all I use for regular maintenance, besides a comb and a brush.

I included some pictures of my hair.  I am not a hair model, but wanted to give you an idea using some pics I already had on my computer.  If you like it, it only costs less than $10 to maintain

Tip 4: How To Be An Alpha Female

An alpha female can be ruthless, more so than a man, because you never see it coming, she’ll smile, then cut ‘ya…

Alpha female and Vogue magazine editrix Anna Wintour is known just as much for her infamous “aloof” and “detached” personality as she is for her infamous sunglasses that are just within millimeters of her reach in the above photo.

An alpha female is not someone you want to cross.  Being that she is unique, you won’t see her sweat or hear her cussing out anybody.  She is calm, collected, but calculating.  Emotional outbursts and neck twisting threats are not her thing.  That is associated too much with typical female responses.   She maintains her togetherness or poise as much and for as long as she can.  She doesn’t believe in pay back, but she does believe in back pay.  She will go to the ends of the earth if she has to and destroy you through fear or some other method that will surprise you.  For instance, one woman I interviewed a few years back was a producer at a popular tv news magazine. She blocked the promotion of an alpha female in the office who was more than qualified. 

Eventually, the alpha female chick was fired, and not promoted.  The woman in the office responsible for this was relieved that’s she no longer had to deal with her.  Low and behold, 2 years later, she runs into the alpha female, who is the woman her husband left her for.  She had no idea who the other woman was until then.  The alpha female and the husband have been married for 10 years and going strong.  It was calculated and it was planned.  Please do not play.  It worked, whether we agree with it or not.

Of course, there are alpha females who may not go to these extreme measures, but an alpha female can be your greatest ally or worst enemy.  She has a few enemies of her own and keeps them very close to her.  In fact, she’ll smile in your face, and in the next scowl.  She doesn’t go around fighting little battles.  She actually lets lots of things slide.  Alpha females are never about appealing to the masses.  She doesn’t sugarcoat anything or try to be politically correct about her motives.  She knows life hurts sometimes, and sometimes, we can’t all do it the right way. 

You would never find her busting out a man’s window or copping his identity and sellng it to a man named Gustavo in Mexico for a few stacks.  She would never do anything illegal, or at least avoid it as much as possible.  But she may try another covert method or see Mama Clara up in the Blue Mountains of Jamaica to get some “advice” with a little “love spell.” She only fights the wars, as long and arduous as they may be.  She isn’t about being right or wrong, but winning—all the time.

If you’re an alpha female in a tough situation always weigh the rewards and against the consequences, calculate your efforts, then proceed with caution, and a smile.

A Man With A Hobby Is A Man With Ambition

Editor’s Note: For those who emailed me, yes I do have a hobby come to think of it, and it’s baking. Wow, I didn’t even know because I haven’t done it in a minute. I also like going to the range. This Blog for instance, I don’t consider it a hobby because it demands more time and is part of my business, but it completely gives me the sanity that I need right now. Going through some major stress ya’ll. I just wanted to focus on the men for this one. Alpha females are always doing things “differently”. In that case, she would rather bond with a man in a way no other woman would, and definitely much more than sex. Anyway, post coming up at a later date for the ladies with “interesting” hobbies. That’s a goodie.

As we get ready for our weekend, some of us will be with that special someone integrating ourselves in something we think is utterly ridiculous.  It can be ridiculous if your man’s hobby is playing video games.  But men with real hobbies should not be disturbed for they carry the torch to the answers of this world.  Yes, a man with a hobby is a man to have because it can be a quicker way to bond with him and, he’ll also be a happier man.  I certainly don’t want to be responsible for anyone’s happiness and studies show that people with hobbies are happy. I have been with men who have hobbies, odd ones, but that I will leave for another blog.  One of my exes loved miniature cars.  Is that what they call those things? 

Anyway, I think it’s remote controlled miniature cars.  He would have his office filled with them and spend hours outside his house in the street with them.  I’ll know it’s going well when I hear a yelp or two from out the window, or a crash with a real car.  Another one, enjoyed motorcycles.  Now, that is something a girl could get used to.  Because of his love for motorcycles, I learned a lot about riding, and am now looking into a woman’s riding club.  Another one, took pride in gardening and furniture upholstery, so he was a real man’s man, good with his hands.  That meant we spent our weekends at the flea market buying old stuff, and he’d spent the evenings making it look nice for me. I actually had to stop him, because sometimes I liked the old antiquey look.  He taught me gardening.  Two of my exes have done that. Gardening! And I thank them for it. 

A man with a hobby is a man going places, especially those with expensive hobbies like golfing and sailing, he has lots to share with a woman, and many are happy to teach.  Some women can be so used to teaching, that they forget about learning and listening.  A man with a hobby is almost borderline genius.  If you’re a woman without a hobby, find a man with one.  These hobbies are passions, now if they could only be as good boyfriends as they are hobbyists

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